Love can be defined through different forms of actions and can be interpreted differently for each person. This may be the reason why love has become so confusing since people don’t view it the same way. The many views from person to person are known as the love languages. Gary Chapman talks about the five different types of love and explains how they may be the reasons why you do not connect with the other person. The five types of languages are:
- Words of Affirmation: This type of person cares more about what you say towards them rather than the actions you do towards them. This person truly feels love when you tell them openly “I love you”. They take your insults to heart and would be hurt, but would also see it as a way to grow who they are.
- Receiving Gifts: This type of person does not see the gift as love but they see the work put into the gift. They appreciate how thoughtful you are and the effort that you put into the gift. When they receive a gift they see it as a symbol of someone else’s love and affection towards them and sees that the person cares for them.
- Acts of Service: This type of person feels loved when you help them out with any of their tasks. When helping them with homework or teaching them a concept that they are confused about, you are showing that you really care for them and that they are valued. When you do not stick to your commitments or make more work for these types of people, they see this as a way of saying their feelings don’t matter to you.
- Quality Time: This type of person realizes that you love them when you spend time with them. They need your full and undivided attention. When you spend time with them they feel special and loved. When you do anything with them, whether it be uninterrupted time talking or doing activities together, your connection with them deepens and they start to feel more loved by you.
- Physical Touch: A person that has physical touch as their love language are very touchy. They show their love towards you by giving you hugs, pats on the back and holding your hand. When they touch you they are trying to show their excitement, concern, care or love. Being physically present with them shows that you love them while when you neglect them, they can feel hurt and may be unforgiving. Appropriate and timely touches tells the other person that they love you and that they feel safe with you. These types of people are less likely to verbally tell you how they feel.
One type of love isn’t better than the others and it changes for each person. Even if only one type of love relates towards you, it is important to know the others because someone close to you may have different results. If you are unaware or want to clarify as to which type of love language relates to you, then visit the link to take a quick quiz at
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/teens/
By: Alexandria Ioannou & Marina Longo
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